Thanks!What are the secrets behind your successful marriage?
It takes two, period. You could be the best wife in the world and he could still be a bum. Get that outta the way.
The first thing that I would tell a new bride is about men's need for unconditional respect. Please, hear me out, just like you need unconditional love from him, he needs unconditional respect from you. I don't mean kiss his butt, I mean when you speak to him, look at him, argue with him, etc. use a tone and body language that communicates respect to him. He doesn't just want it, he needs it.
I'm sure you've heard that the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach, right? If you ask a man how he would view his wife taking the time and energy to make him a good meal when he gets home from work, he would say that she is showing him respect. It isn't the food that makes him love, it's the motivation behind it.
Just like it's his job to love you whether you're lovable or not, it's your job to show him respect whether he's respectable or not. The sooner that you accept it the better off you'll be.
This is where you should drag him over to the screen.
Your near-bride wants to have the best marriage that she can, which means she wants to love you and for both of you to be happy together for a long, long time.
I've given her a short run-down and if you're reading this then you should be ecstatic that she's willing to show you the respect that you so badly need from her.
Now here's your part: Show her that you love her no matter how unlovable she is being. That is the absolutely fastest way to get her to respect you. When you are wrong, she already knows, your friends know, her friends know, the dog knows. Just admit and apologize, she'll respect you for it, you haven't 'lost' everybody's wrong sometimes.
The fact that she is seeking out advice on how to keep your marriage fresh, loving and happy means that she obviously cares enough about you to make an effort to create a wonderful marriage before it has begun, you found a winner.
To both of you: your job isn't to remind the other what they are suppose to be doing, worry about what YOU are doing.
90% of problems can be fixed by changing how YOU do things, changing your behavior can and, most likely, will change their behavior.
I wish the best to you, and I hope you find the dream marriage that you are looking for!What are the secrets behind your successful marriage?
Thank you, I really hope it helps you.
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First of all congratulations and best of luck.
Marriage at the beginning is more responsibility than later, as marriage at early stage present test for success ';Continue on this relation?'; i have married three times n my life. Best advice i can say is ';Honesty is big ladder in marriage life, forgiven is another, sharing and finally building commonality among you two. He likes that ';wiz time you will like and vs';
patience is last one. Cause marriage requires lots of patience.
Once again, good luck and i really wish you happy life
Alot of butt kissing,and letting him think he is always right!
honesty, respect, compromise.
I've been married 28 years and I can say that even good marriages go through difficult times. Don't think you have to throw in the towel at the first sign of conflict. Talk things through rationally. Don't fight over little things, they're not worth it.
If you're doing something that you wouldn't do if your spouse were there, then it's something you shouldn't be doing.
love, true dedication and the willingness to accept the things you cannot change!
A succesful marriage doesn't need a perfect man or perfect woman but it needs a husband and a wife striving together to get a perfect marriage. Trust each other. Be open-minded, both of you. Don't do things that might make him/her insecure. See to it that both of you always make your partner feel loved. For the wife, be always available for him. Sometimes, put some excitements to your romance. Be creative and exciting. Make him feel like a king and surely he will make you feel like a queen. okey?
Best wishes and God bless your union...
My marriage was successful because I knew WHEN to get out of it. I've been blissful every since.
Dont get fat.
Married 26 years. When you KNOW you love your spouse, the little things they do that drive you crazy, really aren't that important to obsess about. It's the big things that you are able to work through that matters. Your going to go through some rough waters, but realize that you are in this ';together'; not separate. You BOTH handle the things that come up on a daily basis and rationally work through them. Don't put everything on the other's shoulders. If something is bugging you, talk, talk, talk. Woman usually just want an open-ear that is listening to what they are actually saying. Men usually talk when they want something straightened out. Be NICE when discussing things, show respect for the other. I can't say enough about just being kind.
Well...i am 6 months in...and can tell you that you HAVE to communicate, be respectful and find quality time...one on one time at least once a week together...even if you just veg out and stay home! Realize the fighting doesn't have to be do or die....allow cool down time....and still be an individual!
The key to marriage is to get a comfortable couch. Because
you are going to be sleeping there alot. Marriage is a contract between a man and a women where the man agrees to give up half of every thing he is worth in return for less sex.
But THERE ARE 3 RINGS TO MARRIAGE the engagment ring the wedding ring and then after the marriage the
suffeRING. THE ONLY HOPE YOU HAVE IS TO set the rules
early what ever she gets used to she will except. So watch football for 15 hrs on sunday and tell her thats never gonna change establish that from the start. or she will never let you do it. Also as soon as you get married visit all the divorce lawyers that are good for a consultation then she can never use them down the road. Also hide cash in an account before you get married. Never tell her about that account. She will
be spending all your money so you will need this account if you ever want to have some fun. As far as you being happy
you can't be married and happy at least not for long because once the honeymoon period is over she will start to turn into your mom then you are done. So happyness as you know it is over. The only way to keep a marriage fresh is to get a prenup. Why a prenup because once a women feels safe and knows you will not leave her she will treat you like dogshit.
If there is a prenup she will behave because she knows if
she acts up your leaving and she is getting nothing. When
you date things are cool why she will not act up because she knows you will leave. She is scared and thats the best thing for a marriage. Good luck but my best advice is run, run fast, very fast and never look back. MARRIAGE WILL RUIN YOUR
LIFE. THEY ARE MAN MADE PRISIONS !!!!! RUN !!!!
OH your a girl sorry Tell your sucker I mean future husband
I feel bad for him and please let him read my advice. Thank you.
all i have to say is one thing compromise
Every morning when you wake up, think ';how can I make my partner feel loved today?'; If you're both making that your first thought, your actions will speak volumes.
Always put each other first - even when kids come along. The mistake some parents make is doing everything for their children but forget to nourish themselves or their r'ships.
R'ships are like cars in 1 way - they take maintenence. You can't expect one to just run along smoothly forever. It takes work and actively doing things to keep the love going.
Successful marriages aren't just about love. There is a foundation based on common interests, values, and respect. It takes WORK and understanding that your commitment doesn't end at the alter but is renewed every single day.
Laugh ALOT - it will get you through hard times. :)
Never let the romance die. Go for a date night once a week. Do something unexpected. Keep him on his toes! :)
We have been married 32 years, had our ups and downs but we are more deeply in love than ever. How? Treat your partner with deep respect, always give 110% to the relationship, and have lots of hot sex!
Laugh a lot! Especially at the stupid stuff. Otherwise you will drive each other crazy.
Oh and marry your best friend- it helps.
Go in to this marriage with perfect honesty, communication, Ability to make yourself happy. Dont think in anyway shape or form that it is his job to keep you happy. He is becoming a part of your daily life, he will not be perfect in all ways, just as you wont be. Love each other on a daily basis.Keep his ego pumped that he is the only man that walks. Good luck to you honey. Have a beautiful marriage. Talk Talk Talk.
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