It is true that as a woman earns more money she effectively disqualifies a greater and greater number of men from being considered as marriage material. Still, these women do want to get married for the most part, there just aren't enough rich suckers to go around.
Men also know that they're going to get hammered in a divorce court when the divorce comes around (as it probably will) so are reluctant to marry. Here in the UK prenuptial agreements are not legally binding and even in the USA where they are judges look for any excuse to void them. The only foolproof way to protect yourself is to not marry at all.Many blame the declining marriage rates on men not wanting to marry?
Most men don't initially ';want'; to get married or have babies; biology has something to do with this of course and social conditioning. They have a later biological clock than women, (although studies show that quality semen declines in most men after age 35), and they cannot biologically be burdened with the physical demands of pregnancy, (but can be affected by financial and psychological responsibility.) Also, some men, especially those who have been previously married and the marriage failed, may be unwilling to remarry and experience another divorce and alimony and/or child support. Wealthy women may also not want to lose cash in a messy divorce. Anyone who has money and gets married should consider a pre-nup; just because you were married doesn't necessarily mean that you should automatically be entitled to half of your ex's wealth, no matter what your gender. Look at Kevin Federline for example, living high on the hog off his ex wife.
It's not that men no longer want to marry, when did they ever? It's that women are increasingly less willing to marry. Historically, lifelong heterosexual monogamy has never been one of the more successful ways to structure society. That's why the divorce and infidelity rates are so high. What made women need to marry was the lack of opportunity to succeed on their own, now that those opportunities have opened up they see less need to tie themselves down. From a purely pragmatic point of view how would it be to a successful woman's advantage to marry? She could have all the advantages and none of the legal drawbacks by simply living with a lover.
Gotta disagree with you there.
I don't want to ever get married (I'm 34) and it is mostly because I don't want kids, and would like for everyone involved to have the ability to terminate the relationship without a lot of guff.
There is simply no practical, compelling reason for me to want to marry.
Every day? 24/7? I'm a one woman guy, but I do like my alone time.
Prenups are great, but even bringing it up with somebody you have no intention of marrying even usually starts 'the prenup argument.' I've heard of prospective marriages canceled because someone brought up a prenuptual agreement.
If men were really afraid of getting married for purely monetary reasons, they would just make sure to sign a pre-nup before getting married. I think people in general are less concerned with getting married, because they see so many marriages end unhappily. Why would you want to get married and risk that type of heartbreak and legal run-around? Some people still believe in the possibility of a happy marriage. It remains to be seen if the institution will continue into the future.
Men are more worried about taking mariage because of the huge burden it imposes in a society which is geared to hedonism and not to family life, because women have been taught in western society to be the equals of men or above, men feel inferior to women and therefore tend to give up trying.
This is a throwback from idiots like Germaine Greer and other 'feminists' who really were/are manhaters and influenced marxist educational leanings in the sixties, this is the result of that influence.
No that's unlikely
maybe its because people aren't expected to get married and have children in their early 20's anymore
Maybe its because couples are 'allowed' to live together nowadays without having to get married
maybe its because people don't need to marry to qualify their relationship
maybe its just harder these days for men and women to find that special someone
As for divorce laws, most long term couples are considered 'married' under common law and as such property and assets can be divided by law
LOL
women like the idea of getting money in a divorce?
divorce is one of the single most horrible things that can happen to you, with the exception of losing a parent. the stress and depression is unbearable. no amount of money could have made my divorce worth it...had i even been able to get money. i barely scraped out of having to pay spousal support to my husband of less than a year.
even though i was the one who wanted the separation, i can tell you that ';getting something out of it'; was the last thing on my mind. i just wanted peace and to be loved and cherished.
I personally don't blame men for declining marriage rates. I doubt that women getting alimony is to blame too. I think it's because of how many people are getting divorced and ruining the sanctity of marriage in society's eyes.
The only thing that comes to mind about men not wanting to marry, is them only wanting sex and companionship and nothing else.
Most people who are getting married are not thinking about divorce. This is why so many couples fail to sign prenups because of this attitude that ';we will be in love forever'; and ';it won't happen to us.';
Really? This is the first I have heard of that reason. If a woman has a prosperous career and great wealth why would she need someone elses?
Who has ever said that? Are you just fabricating lies now? I don't think marriage is declining as much as couples are just waiting now to get married. Before in 1960, the average age for a woman to be married was 22 but now it has gone up 28 or even 30. Men have always married in their mid-20s but now like woman they're also holding off marrying until their early 30s.
The reason for this is simple: women are now going to college much more than they did in the 50s and 60s. Some even go for Master's or PhDs and they put marriage in the back burner. It seems everyone has started to put their careers first. So marriage has become secondary for men and women compared to our counterparts in 50s. This is why in post-industrialized societies birth rates are lower than developing countries. It seems when a woman goes to college and works she doesn't bear as much children as a woman in Uruguay who did not have the same education.
I don't think men care so much about this. It might help if both parties are more mature and know what they're getting into. Of course, both incomes are also of great help but there is some worry of how this might affect us in 50 years if this trend continues. Are we to expect stagnant birth rates in Europe and the U.S.? A danger of low populations? Is marriage becoming something insignifanct compared to other things? That is something we will have to wait and see.
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