What is a contract marriage in the army?

I found out I'm pregnant by a friend in the army. We are kinda close, but not as much considering his best friend was my 1st and was a COMPLETE ASSHOLE to me after(alot of drama). He is in the army and is supposed to leave for Iraq in Jan. and he 1st mentioned a contract marrige. We jus wanna stay friends, but have a way to support the baby. Would this be our best bet or is there something better?What is a contract marriage in the army?
NEVER GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF A CHILD.....





if you don't want marriage... then don't do the contract marriage.... whatever that is.





If he considers this his child... he should be willing to help support.What is a contract marriage in the army?
Military personnel are paid more when they're married/have kids.





Usually in a contract marriage, the servicemember will agree to split the extra money with the Mother, but they do their own thing: dating other people, living with another person, etc.





It's illegal and a federal crime. In other words, he's trying to get out of paying child support and instead, he's wanting the government to support his child without him having any responsibility.





Don't marry him, notify his command (where he works) that you're pregnant with his baby and contact an attorney. He will be ordered to pay child support and your baby will be given a military ID that will allow him/her to receive healthcare at a military facility
Grumpy Munchkin is sooooo right...





I'm an army wife and I've seen this happen before. The money lasts for a few months and eventually tapers off to nothing. Things get messy quick.





Edit: You do NOT have to be married for HIS child to get benefits. You will not receive anything if you are not his wife but his dependents--his children--will receive Tri-Care insurance and he will receive more money, which goes to you for child support.
He will get a lot more pay and can give that to you. Depending on his rank and where you live it could more than double his current pay. You will be able to get a dependent ID and so will the baby. You and the child will both be able to have health insurance, be able to shop on post, and a few other things.





Or he could tell his commander and just get the stuff and some of the extra money for the child, but you would not receive anything extra like the insurance, ID card, and a few other things.
Grumpy is correct, kinda... I used to know a guy who had a contract marriage, got caught and ended up having to pay it all back before being dishonorably discharged, but there was no child involved and he simply did it for the money...


in your case, you and your friend are about to have a kid, as far as the military is concerned you don't exist, neither does the baby until he/she is born and paternity is established, that could take a very long time seeing as you are still pregnant and he's getting deployed in a few weeks, meanwhile if something happens to your friend in Iraq your child isn't going to be taken care of (no life insurance, no money for school and no child support) the only way for him to ensure you get all of those for the child is for you to get married before he's deployed... even if you get divorced after his tour is over you'll still get money for the baby... contract marriage is only illegal if you do it for money or citizenship


My ex is in the military it took a year (I filed 2 weeks after she was born) for me to get a support order, and another 3 months after that to get her first check... and my ex was only 2 hours away...


people get married for a lot of reasons in the military... having a child is actually a common reason in both the military and civilian world, even if they don't get along... at least you 2 are friends