Is there a difference between marital sex and single sex? Growing up I was told to wait for marriage. ?

But there is sorta a double standard....men can ';sow their oats'; or whatever the saying is. SO how is it that a man that has a variety can suddenly settle down to one woman and be faithful? Is there a difference between marital sex and single sex? Growing up I was told to wait for marriage. ?
My boyfriend and I actually had a similar discussion just this morning (while we happened to be in bed...).





I've never understood the whole ';wait for marriage'; thing. Of course, I grew up with atheist parents, so that could have something to do with it. My mother always taught me that responsibility was the important thing about sex, not simply abstinence. I was taught at a fairly young age about birth control and waiting until I was ready, not until holy matrimony.





And now, as an adult, I happen to be in a stable, loving, sexually active relationship, though we are not yet married. I don't see why the fact that I have had sex before marriage makes me a bad person in many people's eyes.





I can't see how it would be very different going from single sex to marital sex. But again, you're talking to a woman who has always had one partner at a time - someone she was dating and cared very deeply for while the relationship went on. I can't speak for those who prefer ';hook-ups'; over meaningful relationships - that has never been me. I've never had multiple partners, so for me to go from being single to married wouldn't change a thing. I'd still be with the same man.





I'm not sure how else I can answer your question. I hope that helped some.Is there a difference between marital sex and single sex? Growing up I was told to wait for marriage. ?
Until we become a parent, it's hard to see the other side of the coin. In keeping with the latest traditions of our society, and the trends to have multiple partners, I wonder what you will teach your children. At best, they may parallel your guide lines. One can't be a little bit pregnant.

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Wow that's an interesting questions full of tons of dynamics. I didn't wait but I tell my girls to for a variety of reasons. It's not about keeping you from having fun. It's about the myriad of issues that come with it, broken hearts, unwanted pregnancies, STDs, etc. Also once you have sex, it's easier to have it with someone else and you could end up with a laundry list of men in your life. There is something special about the first time...or at least there should be. Most women will always remember their first time and hopefully it is with someone that you love very much. What a wonderful gift to give your husband. I know virgins who had great sex lives after they got married. I also know women who wondered what it would have been like to be with other men and vice versa. It really is a personal decision and every situation is different.
It is best to save sex fo the person you truly love and want to share your life with. But if you don't wait have the common sense to be mature about your behavior. Take the necessary precautions to avoid unwanted pregancy and STDs.


To tell the truth with or with out previous experience some men never settle down to one woman. others are completely happy to be with one it depends on the man. You just have to know the man you are with and trust him until he gives you a reason not to.


The key is to communicate with one another openly and honestly and keep you sex life firey! If you are his freak he won't have need to look for one in the streets!
Love I suppose. Men who engage in the single life is single and thinks single. When a man marrys he has decided to settle down and live the married life and has decided that he wants commitment. Of course, there's a lot of cheating out there, but not every one cheats
It really depends on the moral standing of the man, for my instance I believe in marital sex due to the fact I've seen what single sex can lead to. But in general it is a double standard.
This is the impossible dilemma of marriage.





As a married dude...I feel like a dog on a leash.....mind you the dog food I get at home is top notch. Alas, it fails to satisfy the instict to run free if the leash were ever to break.
some can and some can't but those who waited will never have to compare the sex.
Yes the difference is single sex is better
I know it sucks, If we do it we are H*'s and if they do it they are just Bad *** Mother F******