When did you know your marriage was over?

Mine is but can't seem to let it go I know everyone will say work on it.


I am tired of working on it have been for 3 years. More downs then up.


I was wondering from those divorced when was it over for you and how long till you finally divorced.When did you know your marriage was over?
there is that point where enough is enough.When did you know your marriage was over?
too late! i say that because my adult children are now telling me they resent my hesitancy. i should have known it when he got another woman pregnant, but i was in a cloud for another two years. all said, i still think people divorce too easily and that marriage is not disposable. i have not remarried and do not miss it usualy. my ex husband developed a mental illness that peaked after we already had two children. i excused a lot of his behavior because he was sick. but he chose not to take his medication.
My estranged husband and I rushed into our marriage. We had nothing in common except where we met (Burger King) where I was the manager and he the ';bun man.'; He persistently asked me out for over 2 years until I gave in and actually fell for his charm and financial security. We were engaged after 2 months of dating. Instead of planning my marriage- I focused on planning my wedding. I had red flags out along but didn't notice them.





After years of constant argument, verbal abuse, being degraded etc. I felt trapped. In March of 2005, his action (viewing me as a sex object) was the last straw. I love him but out of love for myself, I knew I wanted and needed to get out and find happiness.
It took me 4 years and a second child to finally say enough is enough. I do not recomend that to ANYONE! Sometimes asking for help from your friends will get you going to the exit door. Do NOT put yourself or children(if any) the the misery of staying for fear of not making it on your own. YOU can do it. You never knwo you and your spouse could end up being friends in the end rather than enemies(again for the kids if any). I am not going to lie and say it will be an easy process. NO it is not going to be easy at all. Just keep family and friends close and maybe even your own personal councelre to lean on and talk to. Stop making yourself miserable and get out, yes it is going to hurt and you will be sad. Nothing about divorce is nice. I hope i helped. God Bless
You may think that it is over, but does your spouse? I thought mine was over and then he would not agree (we have 2 children) and needless to say we worked / working on it.





It is never Truly over until you both have agreed to move on.
When i has a panic attack and felt like a caged rabbit
Valentines weekend he left me at home with our children while he went away on a weekend trip with his mistress. I could no longer work on a marriage where my husband put his lover before his wife.
I knew mine was over when my husband wouldn't stop cheating.





Sometimes no matter how many times you try to work things out, it doesn't help. Both parties have to commit to making it work and set aside the selfishness. If you both are not willing to fix the marriage, it won't work and it's best to divorce and get on with life.





Six months is the minium time it takes. Child and/or spousal support and dividing property, monies, etc., will take longer in most cases. It took me about 9 months, which was really fast. I had a judge that took my children, finances, emotional and physical state, into consideration, and granted it quickly.
My marriage was over when I told her


that I was a Bi guy, it took her just one


hour and then she was out the door.
When I said I do. I hung in there for 22 years after that day thinking maybe it was just me. It finally sunk in and I told her I had had enough back biting and put owns.
When I walked out the door is when I knew I was never going back, but I want to say that we remained BEST FRIENDS until the day he died from leukemia.
i knew just one day he very abusive and a control freak just one day i knew no more i got out and i never looked back but i do believe there should be a good reason to break up a marraige
They day he left me when I was 6 months pregnant, to go and have sex with TWO of his father's gf's daughters (who were about 10 yrs older than him).


I guess around that time, I figured out it was over. I did try for forgive and we did try to reconcile, when our child was 4 months old, but he cheated again and walked out again, when our child was 5 months old.





That was 10-11 months ago. I filed for divorce 3 months later and our divorce will be final within the next 30-45 days! Since the day he left, I never looked back.
My vows were ';till death do us part';





SO it will be over when one of us dies!














I just hope it isn't like the Meatloaf song lyrics: ';So now I'm praying for the end of time so I can end my time with you';
When the whore moved in with her married boyfriend that had left his wife.
When she told me she was dating another guy. We were divorced 20 months later.