Couples that have been together for a long time: How do you keep the spark in your relationship/marriage?

My hubby and I have been married 3 years, and been together a total of 10. We are best friends, have perfect communication, have fun together, etc...but something is missing. How do you get that spark back?Couples that have been together for a long time: How do you keep the spark in your relationship/marriage?
Hi,





Stuff always gets in the way. ( Bills, Kids, LIFE !) We tend to start looking at our lover as someone we think we know everything about . What He wants.... or what she needs. But the minute we can go back to just treating that person as someone that is new and exciting and stop worring about '; What we should do or know'; And just start following our hearts and passions. That Spark you are looking for will find you. Believe it or not your hubby feels the same way and would be sssssssoooooooooooooooo happy if You would just take the lead !!!!!!!!! '; What have you got to lose........and What do you have to gain?'; Pretend that you just got together .......what did you do..........how did you dress.........how did you treat him? Got some ideas? I bet he has some too but he doesn't think you would approve. That is how affairs start. How about having an affair with your husband?Couples that have been together for a long time: How do you keep the spark in your relationship/marriage?
Tell everyone your going away for the weekend and just go to a nice close by hotel. Inexpensive and easy. You can pretend your a new couple in a new area and just spend the weekend together no cell phones just the two of you with no expectations maybe throw in a little couples message sauna and spa and just relax with each other.
The spark isn't the most important thing. The friendship, the communication and the comfort level is far more important.





If you're really worried about your sex life, though, try surprising each other. Put on a sexy outfit when he's due home from work, buy a few ';toys'; or try new positions. There are a million ways to deal with that and honestly if that's your only problem you are very lucky.
Redbook magazine says that you shouldn't pee in front of your partner - if you do that, stop. It's not sexy. They also say you shouldn't do personal hygiene stuff in front of them, like shaving your legs, that type of thing - and don't treat your husband like a ';girlfriend'; - treat him like your man. In other words, don't get too comfortable or it will zap the romance out of the relationship.





Also.. do you have date nights?





Do you still pursue your own hobbies, like you did before you got deeply involved in the relationship?





Do you initiate sex, and are you willing to try new things?





Do you each take care of your appearance like you did when you were single?
Try something different. Everyone gets into a rut once in a while.





Whether it's a weekend trip to a nearby city, or an evening at a new restaurant that you've never been to, or even just going to the zoo or botanical garden so you can experience something new together can really help.





-- together 16 years
Need to set aside some time and just take a weekend away from everything to re-energize. Couples tend to get comfortable and take each other for granted. You become in a rut. Once your in for to long. It's very hard to get out. Spontaneity. Try doing something different in your life. Sexual or otherwise. It will come back. You do not want to look for it somewhere else or your husband. And you know where that will end up. DIVORCE. Good luck.
We like toys. A few new toys can make everything seem like the first few weeks.





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You know I really don't have the answer for you, but I'm kinda of going through the same thing recently!!! And I know exactly how you feel!! If you get a good suggestion please let me know..Good luck
Learn to live outside of the lust that your hooked on and ruins alot of marriages