Tuesday, January 19, 2010

How long does it take for the newness, effects of marriage to wear off where one or the other wants divorce?

When does the ';blindness'; of love wear off?How long does it take for the newness, effects of marriage to wear off where one or the other wants divorce?
Marriage takes a lot of work


Both parties must work all the time


Marriage is like a business partnership


Honestly, commitment,loyalty,trust,compassion... respect %26amp; love for each other


One partner screws up %26amp; you are out of business


COMMUNICATION is the key..talk about it..argue about.... discuss it....solve ..then forget it %26amp; make wild love


NEVER go to bed angry..life is too short.. Your days are numbered


You never know when you will take your last breath


If you marry your honest, loyal, friend, trustworthy, compassionate, committed, decent, responsible, reliable, humorous, love you will never have to worry about love wearing off. Each day is fresh, new %26amp; excitingHow long does it take for the newness, effects of marriage to wear off where one or the other wants divorce?
Usually the main reasons that trigger the desire for divorce are the following:





1) The partner got ';bored'; of you. For example, if he was a husband: seeing the same woman every single day, having sex with the same woman everytime, while seeing other new woman at work, in social gatherings and similar occasions. This triggers the desire to ';explore something new'; --- %26gt; leads to problems and tensions with his wife --%26gt; wants divorce.





2) Lack of tolerance. He cannot tolerate the nagging, the demands, the problems, the arguments, the pressure and the responsibilities. This makes him less tolerant. Leads to problems from the silliest and smallest reasons -- %26gt; He gets fed up and asks for divorce.





3) The whole marriage wasn't based on love in the first place: whatever desire/feelings quickly fade away. Emptiness and coldness is felt between the partners.They become emotionally dissatisfied --%26gt; divorce.





Those are the common reasons, which many men do not admit or fear to face their wives with. The key is to make sure that you love your partner from the deep bottom of your heart, and that you cannot live without her, ever. You love her for what she is, in whatever situation she was. You love her for her. Otherwise, it wont last.





Hope this helps.
I find this a VERY strange question. If all it takes to end a marriage is for the ';newness'; to wear off, it is no wonder so many kids are thinking they need a divorce after three months of marriage.





If this is truly how you think about marriage I STRONGLY recommend that you don't get married, and if you are already married, I don't think you will be for long.
Invest the time in finding the right person and living with them for a few years-and then worry about getting engaged and married. We were together 7 years before committing to marriage, most people just want the white dres and party and give nothought to reality -that is why they get screwed-laziness and immaturity.
I am not sure


but I will tell you this it has benn 5 years during which we have gone to the worst (miscariages, x husband interference with children custody, x wife interfering ) and we are still in Love and very happy


so I guess we have gone trow for better or worst and we are hopoing that we can have at least 50 more years at the moment we don't care how they will come as long as we have them


remember the first always hard expecially if it is your 1st marriage


so don't get a divorce yet work at it and be patient


newness is not all is crack up to be


getting comfortable with each other is more important


Just keep tellign each other *I LOVE YOU *
For some, the newness never wears off.





Life is strange, and definitely unfair: It Takes Two Babe (Sonny %26amp; Sher) to get married; only one to get a divorce.





First, both of you sit down at the table, make a list of Pros, a list of Cons to staying together.





If that doesn't work, seek counseling. If that doesn't work, ';Hit the Road, Jack';.
There isn't any exact science to this. Sometimes the newest wears and it becomes better not worse. Depends on how committed the person in the relationship is. Marriage takes two folks getting into a unit. it has ups and downs but if the two of you really want a marriage to work you will never lose the spark
it gets better every year cause u get to know the person more and feelings get deeper. yeah fights might get worse but if yall really want to work it out you both will find ways to fix the problems there are times when yall can even think of divorce but when u get over being mad the relationship and love gets 10x better. sex gets better too. everuthing should get better if not u aint doing sumthing right
People don't divorce because the ';newness'; has worn off. They divorce because the relationship isn't working out, they're unhappy, one or the other has cheated, ect. Not because they've reached some ';time limit'; and want something new. That's called dating :)
If you mean the honeymoon period, it could last somewhere between 6months to a few years or until there is a new arrival.


Blindness of love? I've never heard of that phrase.


When you no longer care for each other, divorce is easier.
Well honestly somehow my man gets sexier every day. We have been together 6 years and to me we are more attracted to each other than ever. When we are out together we always tell each other that they are the hottest one in the room, and we ain't lying x
I started thinking about divorce the first year of my marriage. Prior to that things had been wonderful.





I would say basically as soon as the marriage ceremony is complete.
Commonly around the 3 year mark. Give or take 6 months. Marriage counseling will help you get through it and thins things get better again.
It can be one harsh comment, humiliation, insult etc and the love is gone forever.
2-5 years





For me, I usually get bored after 2 years of any relationship.
six months to a year...then bam see yah made another mistake..
20 years and still there.
around 2 yrs

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