What are your top 10 things you would recommend to make a marriage work?

1. The truth


2. Sex the way he wants it.


3. Honesty


4. Sex the way she wants it.


5. Don't lie.


6. Sex in the kitchen


7. Trust each other


8. Sex on the beach


9. Be upfront


10, Sex up-front.What are your top 10 things you would recommend to make a marriage work?
1 To keep RESPECT for one another! (which means never do anything that could risk that to be the end result


#2 TRUST goes hand in hand with respect, because once that either of these two very important qualities are lost they can not ever be fixed, mended, to feel or will they ever be as they first were before they were lost.


#3 FUN TOGETHER be sure to always allow you and your other half the time to share having fun times together, This is really important! Trust me when I say this because people really do seem to forget all about this very important quality but it will surely be a very big factor in you having a life time of happiness with the same partner.


#4Don't LIE. Remember this is one of the causes leading to losing the trust and respect qualities. Lieing come from you doing something you really know you shouldn't have done in the first place.So before you do wrong you better really think and ask yourself if it is worth more to do this because a good chance your relationship will never be what it once was all because of a stuipid one time wanted to do, ..


#5 Your LOOKS yes, remember to keep your self looking your best just as you did when you were dating, JUST because people live together, is certainly no reason to stop caring about ones appearance. WHY,PEOPLE TEND TO START LOOKING AT OTHER PEOPLE is and will be the end result,


#6 DON'T TAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR GRANTED.


#7 DON'T PLAY GAMES with your partner or with your relationship!! I am not refering to card games, etc., HEAD TRIP GAMES these are also big no no's..


#8 PLEASE and THANK YOU !! A L W A Y S continue to use these forever and always.


#9 I AM SORRY. you only look better and yes, you will feel better too when you remember to say these three very important love for a life time words.


#10 HOLDING HANDS AND KISS HELLO AND GOOD BYE AND A KISS IN THE MORNING AND NEVER FORGET THAT MOST IMPORTANT KISS GOOD-NIGHT.What are your top 10 things you would recommend to make a marriage work?
* take a marriage preparation course to discover the difference between males and females and discuss the lessons openly


* have a joint bank account


* discuss all major purchases


* have an equal allowance every week


* develop traditions (like going out every second Sunday)


* discuss having children before having them - who is going to stay home, if anyone, and who is going to be responsible for discipline


* involve both sets of parents in wedding planning


* realize that a ';loss of trust'; ruins marriages and talk about it


* do not expect men to communicate like women do (and vice versa)


* do not share experiences about ex boy friends and ex girl friends
1,) Make time for each other


2.) Travel (before kids)


3.) Finish school/college (before kids)


4.) Confide in your family/friends


5.) Let your spouse do their thing once in awhile without griping at them whether it be going out with the girls, shopping, etc. or going out with the guys, fishing (or whatever hobby), going to a game, etc.


6.) Compliment/pamper/love each other/including sex!!


7.) Be concerned of their needs, ask them how their day was, etc.


8.) Listen/be supportive


9.) Treat them as an equal


10.) Never forget an anniversary, birthday, and (if you do have kids) Mother's Day (yes, we know she's not your Mother, but she is the Mother of your beautiful children).
Well there are a great number of things that can help make a marriage work.





No order of importance here just so that's clear ahead of time. :)





1. Both partners should read the book The Five Love Languages


2. Agree that you are not always going to agree. That is the nature of any relationship but we tend to forget that when marriage comes into play. We forget that we are not identical and we can't understand why our mate doesn't always agree with us.


3. Always always always keep an open line of communication. Neither person can shut down when things get tough. You have to talk about things and feel comfortable talking about things. We have to remember to leave anger out of it. The person you marry is your partner in life. You can't hold grudges you can't lose your temper you can't give up on them. ';Your temper is the one thing you can't get rid of by losing it'; (great line from Anger Management and yet so true)


4. Keep your relationship fresh. Be willing to do new things go places you haven't been. Experience life together. If all you do is see each other at home it tends to get pretty stale. It's cheap to go to a park with a book and a picnic. Enjoy each others company other places than just at home.


5. Honestly keep your sex life fresh as well. Be active experiment and always be playful. Again this is a person you want to spend your whole life with. Be willing to push your own boundaries and try new things. (Know each others limits as well though)


6. Trust This is one of my struggles because before I found the love of my life I had some pretty bad run experiences with women. I was cheated on and betrayed and so forth. I have to think every day this is not my past. This is the woman I love and I can't be thinking ';is she talking to other guys';, or ';what does she do while I'm at work.'; You have to trust to truly relax and love someone and give them everything they deserve. You can't look at them like they are going to hurt you because that just makes your actions change and makes you not be able to really give what you need to in the relationship.


7. Commitment You have to be committed to the person. They are your everything and others come second. Your family is first and foremost to you. Other people can not come between you and your loved ones. You have to know your limits when it comes to friends and other family members and remember your commitment lies with your spouse and children. They deserve you over others and you have to make sure you don't get out of line and let friendship develop into anything beyond friendships as well.


8. Plan things together. Involve each other in everything. It doesn't have to be complete involvement but keep each other in the loop. Let each other know what is going on in the finances or do them together. Plan trips and other events together. Have goals for your life and your relationship that you want to accomplish together and separately. It's great to sit down and set some goals and be able to help each other accomplish individual goals as well.


9. Don't keep secrets from each other. It's always better to keep each other informed. When you are that close to each other the other person will find out eventually. Holding things in changes your behavior and they'll notice that eventually and you'll be forced to tell anyway. A secret is just as bad as lying to your loved one. Basically it all comes down to do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. Not to bring Bible references into it but it applies.


10. Make sure that you go to bed when your spouse is getting upset with you for being on yahoo answers at 1:30 in the morning. :) With that I'm off to bed. :)
Sense of humor


have fun together


Generosity in the bedroom


respect


kindness


mutual admiration


Kiss Good Morning


Kiss Good night


Share chores


Never stop talking


Disagree without yelling, blaming or name-calling.





Sorry, that's 11.
NUMBER 1!!! DON'T GET MARRIED


NUMBER 2!!! DON''T GET MARRIED


NUMBER 3!!!! DON'T GET MARRIED AND SO ON TO NUMBER


10!!!! DON'T GET MARRIED AND IF YOU DO YOU WILL REMEMBER ME WHEN YOU SAY ';WHY DID I GET MARRIED';


OMG IT RUIN YOU!!!!!
trust


love


understanding


good listener


great intimacy


accept differences and dreams of each other


kick out ego and pride


communicate


fidelity


respect
I would have to say the following:





Honesty


Love


One hand always helping the other


Trust


Good communication


A little space


Sense of humor


No violence


Respect for each other


Compromising
Communication


Love


Trust


Fidelity


Honesty


Respect


Friendship


Compromise


Great sex
not get married


not get married


not get married


not get married


not get married


not get married


not get married


not get married


not get married


not get married
I have to agree with Garth.





But I will add one more..





BE KIND EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT!!